why he...? [1]

MEMO: Amir, I got new case to handle...maybe u can help me thou! hehehee... ^_^

Psst..actually this kinda Q always been asked by girls especially in early time of any relationship...
Q:
~why this guy looks like hard to contact me again after some happy dates!?
~I do think we do like each other...but why in-between dates I don't hear from him?
~is that so much for him to pick up the phone and ask me how I am?
~Is it too soon to expect something? Am I asking too much?

A: hhmm...how to explain in a simple way ya...
actually, first, 'long time' for she doesn't means the same for he, by the way, there is no 'time' in a guy's mind! furthermore, 'dating' for she maybe not enough for he to think of it as 'dating' - uncertain dating stage. Generally, this maybe due to his attention and focus is on something else like busy with works, thinking of parents or family, nonetheless FUTURE! ok girls...faham!faham! kite pun sama kan...but actually...different! in this kind of situation, she'll become frustrated and bothered why he is like this and keep on whishing he would change.

The mindset she has right now can make he sees she as too demanding, apetah lagi kalau she has started talking about all her feelings of disappointments! and this will not go over well thou! So, instead of sitting around disappointed that he hasn't met she's expectation - agaknya he tak tau langsung, or tak faham pun! - she should started thinking about how to take responsibility to create the response she want from he :) - in a correct way so that he doesn't expects 'she's asking too much!' it's like an idea in communicating with he in a way that can creates attraction inside of him...hmm...cemne ea? by this level, firstly, she has to stop thinking just by her own way or behavior - has to make some differences like stop asking him too much for
what you want nor hoping that he 'meets
your demands' - otherwise this will 100% guarantee he won't want to give you what you're looking for...betul! inilah beza 'ego she' ngan 'ego he'.

Ceh! cam tak adil je bunyi nye as she looks like has to susah2 usaha sorang2 plak! for us girls memang la fikir camni, but for guys, ini adalah menarik! alaaa...same as kalau kite girls tengok guys do the same, usaha, kan menarik jugak bagi kite :p tak gitu? It's just that the ways in how to develope great situation/relationship are different between she and he...and these differences yang kalau salah faham or tak clear maka available to lead to 'fight'. Whatever sekalipun, just remember, don't do something that can KILLS the attraction of both might be feeling for each other.
Oh! need to stop...will be continue soon!

p/s be honest about what you want
p/s2 kan aku dah cakap dari dulu lagi, same jer both she and he...kan Amir! ^_^
p/s3 pening plak aku nak menulis bila campur bahasa ni, membawa kpd salah faham tatabahasa.